Would you pucker up for a chance at social media success?

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I’ll be blunt with you. I can’t stand Brown-Nosers. I refuse to be one. I hate it when newer folks in my niches do it to me. And I’m embarrassed for colleagues who think their transparent brown-nosing sneaks by their savvy readers and followers as good old fashioned networking.
Here’s the thing though. The social media crowd often encourages this behavior. Recently I stumbled across a nearly vomit-inducing blog post on how to identify and get the attention of “A-list” bloggers so they’ll become pals and help promote your wares to their awe-inspiring audiences. I also came across a blog post about how to “brown-nose” your way to working with Brands.
People covet that “A-list” label just as some are self-proclaimed gurus. Personally, I’ve had enough of it. Have you? Or are you willing to pucker up in the hopes of riding someone else’s coattails to achieve social media success rather than earning it on your own?
What Constitutes Being a Kiss-Ass in Social Media?
Not sure what would earn you that kiss-ass status? Here are a few examples:
  • You actively pursue relationships with Big Brands on Twitter/Facebook and “A-listers” just because they’ve achieved that mythical status, and because you want to get something out of them (namely partnerships, being able to review one of their hot products, joint promotions or exposure with their audience as opposed to a more meaningful professional relationship).
  • You constantly rave about, link to, or promote someone in the hopes that they’ll eventually notice poor little you and honor you with their virtual presence (or again, give you some bit of that influence they supposedly have).
  • You’re so busy supporting your social media idols in the hopes that some of their success will trickle down to you that you don’t go out there and do your own thing or provide your own value.
  • You stop maintaining relationships with colleagues, readers, or others in your network simply because they’re not “big enough” to help you increase your status anymore.
  • You do some or all of this because you can’t wait for people to kiss your ass someday.
While these folks tend to stand out in a less than positive light, I don’t think most involved in social media fit the profile (thank you, thank you, thank you!).
Why You Don’t Have to Be One
If the near-permanent attachment of lips to ass doesn’t appeal to you, don’t worry. You can do just fine in the social media world on your own. How do I know that? Well, think for a minute. How did those so-called “A-listers” achieve that status when they were there so early in the game that there were no other “A-listers” to leech onto? Here are a few things they did, and things that you can do too:
  • They provided valuable information to members of the audience they wanted to build.
  • They networked with people who could teach them things, people who could learn from them, and yes even the little guys who tried to strike up conversations.
  • They, in most cases, don’t seem to get too big for their britches. They value people in their networks equally (aside from obvious distinctions like casual acquaintances online versus best buds in the business who meet for lunch once a week). They understand that today’s Joe Schmo could be tomorrow’s Zuckerberg, and even if he’s not there is still value in that relationship.
People do notice (and talk) when you act like a snot-faced little suck-up who’s only around when there’s something in it for you. They notice when you only get attention from the big names if you lavish gifts of praise. But people also notice when you genuinely care about them. So act like it (or better yet, actually do it). Figure out what you have to offer and what might set you apart. Then your success with social media is to no one’s credit but your own, and you can build deserved attention rather than practically begging for it.
How do you feel about kiss-asses in social media, trying to rise in the popularity food chain on the backs of others rather than focusing on their own more legitimate presence with their wider audience? Do you get sucked into some of these behaviors? Which ones, and why? Leave a comment below to share your thoughts.
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6 Comments on Brown Nosers in Social Media

  1. Oh man I have to share this. My friend and fellow blogger and I were just having a conversation and laugh about this last weekend. There’s something on your nose! 🙂 great read!

  2. Ha-ha! Great analogy. Totally picture that too. It’s a sad reality. Hard to know who’s genuine nowadays in the blogosphere. Glad to say that I know many exceptional role models both in SM and Blogging. Fantastic people.

  3. I really had no freaking idea this was even going on… I just picture the kids in junior high that show up the next day wearing what the ‘cool girl’ wore the day before.

  4. Anon: Thank you for reading! You’ve been around awhile so it’s crazy to know that it’s been going on that long! I’ll have to get some tips from you. 🙂

    @YashYanth: Thank you! Welcome to the wonderful world of blogging! 🙂 It’s truly a great way to express yourself and write to your heart’s content. Bloggers tend to forget that after a while. Stay true to our beliefs and what you enjoy doing and you will attract all the right people. Thanks for the comment!

  5. Awesome post! I’m a new blogger and truly appreciate that blogging is hard work and that it takes time and honesty in gaining a loyal fanbase. Probs for calling’em out.

  6. LOVE THIS. I see way too many of these types in the SM world. I’ve been blogging for 8 years and would I consider myself one of those “A-list” bloggers, perhaps. Only because I’ve been doing it for a while and have established wonderful (REAL) relationships with brands and bloggers. Wonderful post!

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