I thank my mom for so many things: My ability to work hard and stay humble, my porcelain skin and amazingly strong nails, my toughness and confidence, my 5’3 height (…or lack thereof. I truly enjoy being a “shorty” though – the higher the heels, the closer to God… or was that hair?), my love and skill in the kitchen, and you know my life, obvs.
But there is one thing that I do not thank my Mom for. Why? Simply because it has caused plenty of unnecessary arguments, misunderstandings and the inability to build some connections (through first impressions that is). What is it? This…


… my Bitchy Resting Face or BRF.

I can’t help that I sometimes look like you’re super boring, smell or look weird or I think you’re a total imbecile. I swear that’s not what I’m thinking.  I wish I could walk around with a big smile or happy eyes like some people have, but I can’t. In fact, it would look extremely peculiar on me after a while.  Like those scary clowns.  *shudders*

What is a Bitchy Resting Face? According to Urban Dictionary:

Bitchy Resting Face is a bitchy alternative to the usual blank look most people have. This is a condition affecting the facial muscles, suffered by millions of women worldwide. People suffering from bitchy resting face (BRF) have the tendency look hostile, perhaps sad and/or judgemental at rest. Their expression does not necessarily reflect how they are feeling inside. BRF can ruin friendships and first impressions, start fights and kill an atmosphere.


“Oh my God… that girl totally hates me.”
“Nah, it’s just her Bitchy Resting Face.”


“I tried talking to her but she just looked at me like I was an idiot. How rude!”
“Don’t worry about it. She’s totally listening. That’s her thinking Bitchy Resting Face.”

acaf439457ca7e2bf4a26af16800e714“That girl is so judging me. What a bitch!”
“She’s actually very nice. Don’t mind her Bitchy Resting Face.”


Do you have the case of the Bitchy Resting Face or does someone you know have it? Don’t hate them, embrace them. People with BRF are usually a lot more fun and sweet, I promise. You just need to get past that BRF “wall” and get to know them better.


9 Comments on The Case of the Bitchy Resting Face

  1. I am often told that I look angry or upset, when in fact I am not. This has caused me a great deal of stress at my place of employment and likely in personal situations I am not even aware of. The majority of the time I laugh and joke with my co-workers. I try to be friendly and generous. However, when I am just thinking I apparently look angry. People do not want to believe me when I say I am not angry, just thinking. I cannot have a smile on my face every moment of the day. The judgements we all make based on superficial observations is unfair and hurtful to others

  2. I am totally for the BRF!! No one will mess with you and I think it’ll also give you an edge in certain cases!

  3. I am sitting at my office desk literally laughing at this. Hilarious! I just had to share with my co-workers. I have been confused as a chronic bitch myself plenty of times because I also have BRF. So funny!

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