As adults, I’m pretty sure there have been plenty of times we looked back and cringe-laughed at adolescent memories.
The silly hairstyles and peculiar fashion picks, songs we listened to (although 90’s r&b will forever live in my soul), and oh-my-goodness — our crushes (what was I thinking?).
Yes, this was all funny to me but what’s not-so-laughable was remembering my greatest bully, me.
“I’m not thin enough.”
“I wish I was taller.”
“I hate my nose.”
“I’m so ugly…….”
Confidence and positive self-worth starts with you.
Throw the realities of our pubescent lives, the real bullies, and the images we see on television and what does that leave us? In a big pile of ‘I hate myself’ mush.
Being a mother of a tween, it’s rough to see what she faces today in this extremely self-absorbed and distorted social media world we are a part of. The digital era where bullying can be done, not just in school or at a sports game, but 24-7.
Where your “worth” is measured by how many likes you get or how many online friends you have.
Where one bad choice or photograph can haunt you forever.
I was 12ish here, entering the pre-high school stage with my first large pimple underneath my bottom lip, and although smiling, had one of the worst nights in my tween years when I discovered my crushes feelings were not reciprocal. At that time, my world was crashing down.
I went home playing angsty music and nit-picking everything about myself.
On the plus side, I didn’t have someone making me feel worse than I already did.
That would have tore me to pieces.
The sad reality is for many kids/teens, they deal with much, much worse along with their own worst critic, themselves.
If I could sit down and have a heart to heart with me then, I would remind myself just how lucky I was. That I have such a great support system of family and friends, that I am such an awesome and pretty cool chick, and that I was lovely.
A smile that lights up a room, and those stories I’d write! Those stories were teen-lit novel worthy!
I’d remind myself to focus on all the good around me and in me and that life gets better when you feel better about who you are. And last but not least, that your self-worth is never determined by what others think about you. They would love you if they knew the real you.
What positive words would you say to your younger self if you could?
June 15 is international Stop Cyberbullying Day and Telus wants to show Canada how they’re collectively taking the steps to create a friendlier online world.
Here’s how you can take part in this very important and amazing initiative with me:
1. Find your best (and possibly most awkward) childhood photo
2. Share it on June 15 on the social platform of your choosing along with a positive message to your younger self, using #YoungerSelf #EndBullying.
If you happen to be sharing on Facebook Telus has also made an #EndBullying profile frame available here: http://telus.my/ED51WA.
Join us and share your #YoungerSelf picture and take the TELUS Wise Digital Pledge (if you haven’t already) by visiting: http://www.telus.com/digitalpledge and encourage your friends to do the same.
If there’s something you want to see go viral, it’s this.
Take care of yourself and those around you. ❤️
Disclosure: This is a sponsored post as a Team Telus partner; however, all opinions expressed are those of the author.