I don’t know what bothers me most – those people that are just downright callous and destructive or those that are callous, destructive BUT disguise themselves as being nice people?

Hmm… I’d probably say the latter. Both are unacceptable but being a wolf in sheep’s clothing is just plain wrong.

In all my years on this earth — from begrudging Teenage antics to my years working in a bustling Human Resources Office dealing with many cases in Employee Relations (and there were many a day!) — I have to honestly say, I have never seen a more dog-eat-dog habitat then when I immersed myself into the world of Blogging, Marketing and PR.

What really boggles my mind is that many of these folks started their path — whether it be blogging, marketing or PR (or all!) — with only the best intentions of starting something they enjoyed and loved.
Now, it’s all about who has higher numbers or what awesome clients I have that they don’t.
And what gets affected by this? Their artistry, craft, skill, work…
Lack of creativity in their writing, lack of genuine synergy with others, lack of realistic networking, Lack of Integrity.
It’s a sad thing to see.

Even sadder is that this isn’t only in this type of atmosphere, lack of integrity is everywhere these days.
It’s very hard to trust others nowadays. Do you agree? I don’t know anymore who is truly genuine with me. 

I usually have this phenomenal, almost supernatural gift of intuition (higher than your average woman), so I can usually sniff out the synthetic, but why has it come to this?

I don’t know about you but I was raised to remember that: Respect is Earned, Honesty is Appreciated, Trust is Gained and Loyalty is Returned.
Give me integrity and follow-through and keep the fancy speeches and empty promises.

Now it’s very easy for people to disguise this just by showing the world around them what they want to see, not what’s real and legitimate. You can even “buy your influence and pseudo-respect” apparently these days. Especially in the blogosphere. I learned of this recently (clearly I knew jack* because everything I’ve done has only been genuine). Boggles my mind.

As for me, what you see, is what you get. Love it or hate it. Mostly love, I hope. Because that’s all I want around me – Positive Vibes only! 🙂
If I make a mistake, I’ll own up to it.
If I think you’re awesome, I’ll let you know (and most likely will want to befriend you because I like awesome people in my circle).
If you’ve got something I don’t and wish I did, I’ll work my butt to achieve it on my own instead of silently hating on you.
If I think something is wrong, I’ll try to make it right.
If everyone else agrees on something that I don’t agree with, I will still stand my ground.


There are just some things money can’t buy…

13 Comments on The Withering Character: Integrity

  1. I think integrity of character is so important. I am hoping that my hubby and I are instilling this essential quality in our each of our four children.

  2. I agree, it’s hard to know who to trust these days. Plus it’s hard to earn respect these days. Excellent post!

  3. Excellent post! Unfortunately, I’ve met so many wolves in sheep’s clothing throughout my life and now just tend to be a cynic until I get to “know the person”. It’s very hard to trust people these days. Sad what it’s come too. It’s about about greed and the me me me culture we are plagued with today.

  4. excellent write up, I agree with you 100%, I too do not trust anyone it’s hard nowadays to trust someone always wanting to stab you in the back. I too was brought up on Respect is Earned, Honesty is Appreciated, Trust is Gained and Loyalty is Returned. amen

  5. Such great words to live by. Sometimes it is so easy to get caught up in the difficulties of others. Much harder but more valuable to live with integrity!

  6. Amen to this post! It takes a strong person to hold on their integrity in the face of disappointment from others, and I’m sending you strength.

  7. Respect is Earned, Honesty is Appreciated, Trust is Gained and Loyalty is Returned. Words to live buy that is for sure.

  8. I’m not a blogger, meaning I have a blog and blogged three times in a whole year. So I don’t see everything that you would, but sometimes it comes through.
    People are greedy and basically not good and sometimes it comes out.

  9. Beautiful and honest post! I completely agree with you that integrity, honesty, respect is not quite on the forefront as back ‘in the days’. I remember my parents emphasized the importance of the golden rule: treat others how you want to be treated.

  10. It is very hard for me trust people nowadays as well.
    I agree that integrity is slowly diminishing in people.
    Enjoyed the read-great post!

  11. My husband and I were just have this conversation last night after he had a rough day at work questioning the loyalty and integrity of a coworker he had worked with for many years.
    I lost many friends along the years for the same reasons.
    It is truly very sad what some people will do for their own selfish gain.

  12. This is a fabulous post, Carol. I was actually talking to my best friend about this the other day. This past year, I’ve been having trust issues…in that I don’t trust anyone! LOL! It’s so not in my nature to NOT trust, so this has been hard. To me, the worst thing is like you said, the latter. If you’re going to be a jerk, be a jerk. Being a jerk under the guise of being kind or being a friend is worse.

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