There have been plenty of situations in my life where I had to lie. Mostly for reasons of the heart — I just didn’t want to hurt that person’s feelings.
Other times, I considered them little “white lies”, like when I tell my children they are getting ice cream or candy if they finished their entire dinner and ate their veggies or when introverted me was trying to escape a boring party and said I had plans already in place.
If you are reading this and you’re shaking your head as if you’ve never lied about something ever, you’re a liar.
So, pretty harmless right? Maybe.
I think it all depends on the outcome of it.
This is something I have been thinking about lately ever since my 6 year old daughter caught me in a white lie.
“Mommy, you lied. Why did you lie? You told me that lying is bad.”
“Then why did you lie?”
“This was only a little one.”
“But what’s the difference between a big and little lie?”
For the first time in ages, I was lost for words. And it just so happened that it was my six year old that put me in my place.
When is lying okay? Is it ever okay to do it?
There are different kinds of lying.
By commission: Making things up that are not true.
By omission: Leaving out information or details, telling only part of the truth.
By assent: Rather than voicing real opinion, remain silent even when not in agreement.
In my personal experience, being on the receiving end (being lied to) is almost always hurtful. Whether someone lied to get out of hanging with you, or someone lied to you about how you look in that new dress you bought, or worse, when someone lies ABOUT YOU to others (malicious gossip). Now that stings.
In my humble opinion, lies are lies. There’s never any gain from them at all.
No matter how small or large, I think telling the truth in the best way possible will always be the best solution for everyone. It’s constructive and it helps the receiver be on their way to a more positive outcome built on honest to goodness truth.
Hey, if my thighs looked big in those jeans, I’d like for my family or friend to tell me (silently) so I can avoid buying them again in the future.
If a friend was spreading horrible rumours about me or speaking ill of me and one of my friends knew, I’d love them to tell me. It would hurt more if they didn’t and especially if I knew they knew. And if they did, it would deepen my trust and confidence in them even more and strengthen our relationship.
If I slaved over a hot stove to prepare a meal for my loved ones and they told me that it was, in fact, pretty gross, it would probably sting a little for a few seconds but then I’d move on and learn my lesson.
The truth is not often meant to be all peaches and cream anyway. But it is intended to help bring some sort of consolation and most of all, it builds trust.
“A lie may take care of the present… but it has no future.”
The only time I enjoy being involved in lies, lies and more lies, is when they’re based on exciting and fictional TV shows or movies.
Who doesn’t love a little juicy drama?
Netflix Canada is my go-to for my fill of streaming entertainment and I’ve got some awesome recommendations that have a plethora of deception and treachery!
“Bloodline” is a dramatic thriller that explores the demons lurking beneath the surface of a contemporary American family. The Rayburns are hard-working pillars of their Florida Keys community. But when the black sheep son comes home for the 45th anniversary of his parents’ hotel, he threatens to expose the Rayburns’ dark secrets and shameful past, pushing his siblings to the limits of family loyalty.
“Marvel’s Daredevil” is a live action series that follows the journey of attorney Matt Murdock, who in a tragic accident was blinded as a boy but imbued with extraordinary senses. Murdock sets up practice in his old neighborhood of Hell’s Kitchen, New York where he now fights against injustice as a respected lawyer by day and masked vigilante at night.
So this isn’t really based on all lies, but a masked superhero that pretends he’s nothing but an attorney during the day to all around him would qualify well I would think. Plus it’s AWESOME. I wasn’t a fan of the Daredevil comic from Marvel but this version is way more better. Pretty gory and raw, so if you can’t handle violence and blood, best to stay away.
3) Downton Abbey
Exposing the snobbery and machinations of a disappearing class system, this series chronicles the elite Crawley family and their assorted servants.
This is one of my favourite binge-worthy shows of all-time. Filled with melodrama, lies, tragedies, triumphs… you will watch this and not stop, I guarantee.
P.S. Maggie Smith the sharp-tongued Dowager Countess of Grantham (aka Granny) is THE best character.
You’ll see why.
4) Pretty Little Liars
Rudderless without their missing leader, four formerly tight high school friends band together when a blackmailer threatens to spill their dirt.
Speaking of lies, this teen drama is oozing with all things fraud and betrayal. Just with good hair, makeup and outfits!
5) Mean Girls
Cady joins her new high school’s most powerful clique — but there’s hell to pay when the ex-boyfriend of the clique’s leader wants to be Cady’s guy.
Quite possibly the cult classic that exposed an ugly side behind “popular girls” and high school shenanigans and brought tons of laughs and trending gif’s across North America.
You want nasty little secrets, you got ’em here. Plus, it may just possibly be the only film with Lindsay Lohan I liked (with the exception of Parent Trap and oh yes! Freaky Friday).
Thirsty for more back-biting drama?
Here are more of my favourite shows and movies that you’ll be sure to love:
1) Breaking Bad
2) Gossip Girl
3) Hemlock Grove
4) House of Cards
5) House of Lies
7) The Other Woman (Movie)
8) Lie to Me
Have you got any more to add to this list? I’d love to hear your recommendations as I’m always looking for new shows and movies to watch on Netflix.
Learn more here at http://www.netflix.com.